Food for Thought...
to Fuel Eating Disorder Recovery
2 Ideas to Bring You Back to a Place of Hope in Your Eating Disorder Recovery (2024).
Written by Colorado Registered Dietitian
Joyce Oliveira, RD, RDN
2 Ideas to Bring You Back to a Place of Hope in Your Eating Disorder Recovery (2024).
Even though we may want recovery from our eating disorder, or disordered eating, or body shaming, and even though we may think it is a priority to get help and address this, our actions may not be following suite.
In today’s post I want to share with you 2 ideas to bring you back to a place of hope in your eating disorder recovery.
I recently listened to a podcast by Dr. Henry Cloud titled “The two keys to accomplishing anything.” I will post the link, but please keep reading before you switch over and listen.
I was very intrigued by this title as I have been trying to accomplish something in my life but it is just not getting accomplished. Frustration with my situation drove me to listen to this podcast with a very open mind. Why, am I not getting this accomplished?
My initial thinking revolved around codependency. Am I not getting this thing done because I don’t know how to give myself time to do things for me? As I sat down to write and reflect, I realized that when there is something that I know how to do, and am motivated to do it, I can and usually do it. Perhaps the problem is that I don’t know how to do it, and therefore I avoid. BINGO. Yep, that resonates with me. As I continued to reflect I also noticed myself acting from a place of all or nothing thinking. I either know how to do the entire thing and do it, or I don’t know how to do it and don’t do anything at all.
Perhaps my recovery friends can relate.
Idea # 1 To Bring You Back to a Place of Hope in Your Eating Disorder Recovery
A priority in your head may not be a priority in your behavior because you don’t know what to do or you don’t know how to do it all the way through (all or nothing thinking), so you avoid and do nothing.
Dr. Clouds podcast provided a great reminder to me, which was very timely. Priorities mean things that go prior to. Ah. Let me sit with that for a long minute. If I don’t know how to do something I am not typically going to put that before (prior) to the easier more comfortable things in life that I do know how to do. This leaves me with the lingering stress that I still need to take care of that thing.
Do you have lingering stress over needing to care for or tend to your own eating disorder recovery?
Why am I writing about this, and how does it tie into eating disorder recovery?
Here are a few key points I want to make. Even though we may want recovery from our eating disorder, or disordered eating, or body shaming, and even though we may think it is a priority to get help and address this, our actions may not be following suite. Why? Well you might very well be stuck (like me) in not knowing what to do. Where to start? Who to reach out to? If you ask yourself if getting help from your eating disorder is a priority in your life, and you say yes, but you find yourself not getting the help, is it because you do not know what to do and are therefore avoiding it all together? A little all or nothing thinking like me?
While I have had things in my head as priorities, my actions did not make them so. Why not? Well let me just say that just because something is in my head as a priority, does not mean that I know how to do it. This is an insightful nugget. I haven’t really thought about that before. I have something that is a priority in my head to take care of or tend to, and I do not take care of it because I do not know how to take care of it. And therefore, I do nothing! This leaves me with the lingering stress that I still need to take care of that thing. Do you have lingering stress over needing to care for or tend to your own eating disorder recovery?
If this is resonating with you then keep reading…
Idea # 2 To Bring You Back to a Place of Hope in Your Eating Disorder Recovery
What is the next right thing that you can do to head in the right direction? A small step is better than no step at all.
So say you have lingering stress over needing to care for or tend to your own eating disorder recovery. If I were to ask you “what is the next right thing that you can do” to head in the direction of recovery (gentle reflection here, acting out of our dysfunction heads away from recovery), what would your answer be? Perhaps that is where you start. You don’t have to know how to get all the way through it. But you sure can take a small step forward. It is never too late. I heard a great quote from a dietitian named Jennifer McGurk, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.”
So today I am asking myself, “What can I do?” Even if I don’t know how to do it all the way through, what can I do today? A few recovery slogans come to mind, “Just for today” and “do the next right thing.” I am going to add to that recovery slogan today to state “do the next right thing that I can do”.
What that looks like for me is learning from yesterday; the things that I did, the things that I didn’t do, and the things that I was reminded of or learned. It is the Lords kindness that leads us to repentance. Not shame, guilt, or fear. I serve a God of second chances (and beyond). His faithfulness fuels this. And for that I am so very grateful. I don’t have to stay stuck.
An invitation to a small action step foward…
I invite you to put on your curious George curiosity (leave the shame and judgement out) and honestly examine whether your eating disorder recovery is a priority to you in both your head and in your actions. Then allow yourself a few minutes to reflect on your answer. Keep it simple, set your phone timer for 5 minutes and write down whatever comes up. If you find that it is a priority in your head but not your actions, then I invite you to ask yourself, “What is the next best thing that I can do?” Then take the action step. I am confident that God will meet you as you do.
May you be blessed with hope as you continue in your eating disorder recovery, one day at a time.
November 23rd, 2022
In honor of Thanksgiving week, I was challenged with the idea to put together an ABC’s of body gratitude, or at least appreciation. But before you stop there and leave me, hold on! This may not be your typical body gratitude. For the most part, I tried to keep things very neutral. I invite you to take a moment, breathe deeply…. sighhh……and give this a chance. You might enjoy it. You may be challenged by it. You may even give yourself some food for thought.
I recently meet a person who said he was in a meeting. The feeling of the meeting was downcast, and perhaps a bit somber, with not a lot being said or shared. Someone threw out the idea of sharing gratitude’s. This got the group going. By the time the group went around once, there was still plenty of time left in the hour long meeting. So someone else suggested to go around the room and make their way down the alphabet, sharing something to be grateful for that started with each letter of the alphabet. How interesting, I thought.
So today my invitation to you is to step away from how your body may, or may not, look and take a moment to ponder on how it was created. It is a highly detailed series of functioning parts, systems, and wonder! Have you ever stopped to think that your body is the only body with your unique finger prints, foot prints, and voice? Isn’t it magnificent that for the most part, many of us don’t have to think about breathing, blinking, and swallowing? We just do it!
As I put this together, I myself was met with new amazement, and my heart truly began to give thanks for the things that my body does and can do. For a moment, may you too be met with childlike wonder and awe.
ABC’s
of Body Gratitude
A-
Armpit. One of the warmest areas of the body and home
to over 20 lymph nodes (which help fight infection).
B-
Bronchial
tubes (bronchi). One for each lung. These tubes carry air to and from your lungs. Air comes in through your mouth or nose, down
your trachea, and into each of your bronchi.
Once air goes through the bronchial tubes it is then further separated
to bronchiole and alveoli.
C-
Capillaries. The smallest blood vessels of the vascular
system. If you put all your capillaries
in a single line it would be over 100,000 miles. They are small in size and mighty in
impact. They are the so called “train”
for nutrients, gases, and fluids to move throughout the body.
D-
Duodenum. The first part of the small intestine,
connected to the stomach and the jejunum.
The duodenum mixes chyme with enzymes and bile which help make nutrients
available to the body to absorb. You could
call this the “mixing pot” of the digestive system. It mingles with the pancreas, liver, and
gallbladder to receive enzymes and bile.
What team work!
E-
Esophagus. A hollow tube that is part of the digestive
system. Peristalsis squeezes your
esophagus muscles from top to bottom to help with the transport of food that has
been chewed and swallowed to move into your stomach. It takes about 7 seconds for food to move
from your throat to stomach.
F-Fingers. No two humans
have the same fingerprints. Fingers are
more sensitive than the eyes! Wired into
each finger are receptors that help us experience touch and send messages to
our brain. Maybe this is why holding
hands can be so special.
G-
Gut
microbiome. What exactly is this? Well it is all the bacteria, virus, fungi,
and a few other things that reside in the gut, mostly your large
intestine. It helps with digestion,
destroys harmful bacteria, and is linked to your immune system. Your gut microbiome can affect your brain
function as some types of gut bacteria produce serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine,
and GABA.
H-
Heart. A pump and a muscle. Your heart beats over 100,000 times per day,
without you even thinking about it!
I-
Immune
system. You have both an innate, something
you were born with, (thanks Mom and Dad!) and an adaptive immune system, one
that develops after being exposed to various microbes. It is comprised of organs, glands, cells, and
proteins. This is your body’s built in
army that fights invaders.
J-
Jejunum. Part of your digestive system. It is connected to the duodenum and ileum. Inside the jejunum you have tiny villi (it bitty
hair like objects) which help with nutrient absorption. No thinking required for this digestion.
K-
Knee/
knee cap. It would be really hard to use
our legs without these! They are one of
the most complicated joints in the body.
As a baby, our knees are cartilage.
Knees start turning into bone between 2 and 6 years.
L-
Lungs. On average you take about 20,000 breathes per
day. It is in our lungs where the exchange
of oxygen and carbon dioxide occurs. Our
autonomic nervous system enables us to keep breathing even while we are
asleep.
M-
Mouth. This enables you to talk, taste, chew,
breathe, and experience different sensations (cold, hot, wet, dry, grainy,
smooth). Your smile is unique to you, in
that your teeth rest in your mouth differently than any other person.
N-
Nose. Allows you to breathe and smell and is
intricately designed to help keep large particles out of your body. Being able to smell also helps with your
ability to taste.
O-
Occipital
lobe. This is the visual processing part
of the brain. It is responsible for
depth, colors, distance, face and object recognition, and making sense of what
we see.
P-Palm. The palm allows
us to grab objects, squeeze objects, write, sew, and experience physical
sensations.
Q-
Co
enzyme q 10. An antioxidant that your
body produces naturally and is involved in making ATP. The amount you can produce can vary due to
age, medication usage, and overall wellness.
R-
Red
blood cells. These little guys are
responsible for transporting oxygen from your lungs to the tissue in your
body. No oxygen = no energy.
S-
Scalp. It is said that the scalp contains 100,000
follicles, allowing hair to grow. The
scalp naturally has its own biome which produces oil to keep the top of your
head moisturized and protected from infection.
T-
Tongue. This enables you to taste and talk. You even have a tongue print that is unique
to only you.
U-
Umami. While this isn’t actually a body part, the
papillae (tiny raised protrusions on your tongue that also include your taste
buds) allow you to differentiate tastes.
Umami is the savory taste.
V-
Veins. Some of these veins (such as those in your
legs and lower half of your body) have to work especially hard against gravity,
to bring unoxygenated blood to your heart and lungs.
W-
White
blood cells. Part of your immune
system. These bad boys help in your body’s
ability to fight off infection.
X-
Xiphoid process. A part of the sternum (also called breast
bone) and an anchor for your abdominal muscles and diaphragm. As a child this is cartilage and only once we
are adults does it turn into bone.
Y-
Neuropeptide
Y. This plentiful peptide found in the
brain is linked to our stress response, food intake, circadian rhythm, and
functioning of the cardiovascular system.
Z-
Zonule
fibers. Tiny thread like fibers in the
eye that hold the lens of the eye in place, and also help the lens to change
focus by tightening or becoming more relaxed.